A bad boy will lie straight to your face. But a nice bloke? He’ll spin a web of excuses so gob smacking, you’ll be analysing them for days with your BFFs. Here, we’ve decoded some of the classic relationship lines that ´Good Guys´ use. After all, to be warned is to be forearmed.
By Julie Hodister
- “I just won’t make a good boyfriend right now” His chicken way of telling you nicely he doesn’t want commitment, but he’d still like you to give him a blowjob! Fine if you don’t want a relationship either, but walk away if you want more than between the sheets fun.
- “What we have is so special, why do we have to label it?” When a bloke won’t call you his girlfriend, it’s because he doesn’t want to. “To a guy, calling a woman his girlfriend can be a pain,” says Eric Charles at www.anewmode.com “If the woman is making herself so available when he hasn’t committed to anything, why would he call her his girlfriend?” Eric’s advice? “Avoid badgering him about it.”
- “Is this problem about your ex boyfriend?” means this argument couldn’t possibly be about him, because he’s a good guy! So, really, it’s your relationship hang-ups. Tut. Tut.
- “I think we’re just going through a rough patch” This is classic ´Nice Guy. ´ He knows the rough patch is probably his fault, but what he’s saying is, “Please don’t dump me, because even though I may not be happy right now, I don’t want to be a singleton either.”
- “I’m not good enough for you” equates to, you’re not good or pretty enough for me! He’s trying to make you think he has low self esteem. Don’t fall for this one, says Natalie Lue at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk , “Take off the lens that says you’re not good enough for him.”
- “You deserve better” or “You’re too good for me” are the same thing – and they’re both lame. As www.gurl.com says, “Blokes think this is a kind way to dump you. Firstly, you’ll take it as a compliment. Secondly, he ends up looking like the good guy, because you’ll think it was a sweet way to break up.” Truth is, he’s being a coward because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
- “There’s something you’re not telling me.” He’s really saying, please tell me you want to break up with me. Some blokes would rather make you miserable, and then manipulate you into breaking up with them. Cowardly, but true.
- “I’m holding you back.” What a crock of BS. This is his way of saying he doesn’t want to be anywhere near you, let alone hold you! In fact, he probably thinks you’re holding him back… from being happy, having better sex and even having more time with his mates. He knows he’ll sound like a total dick if he told you all that.
- “I really need to focus my time on my career.” Another classic line. He’s not happy in the relationship, and he knows he’ll grow to resent you more and more. He can’t say that he’d rather dump you before it gets ugly, so he invents the ´career´ excuse.
- “I’ve got a lot of issues going on right now.” “Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead,” says www.SingleBlackMale.com “It means he’s not serious about falling in love. Women often assume that if a man is single, educated, employed and generally a good guy, he’s automatically in the market for a relationship. This is a fallacy.”