Online Profile – Ten Tips for Perfection! We got the love experts to dish on how you can make the right (virtual) first impression with your online dating profile…
By Julie Hodister
- Make Your Profile Picture Perfect
“This is the first thing a date (‘client’) will see when they search for you, so show the picture that attracts the dates you want,” say the Style Experts at Style Seat (www.blog.styleseat.com) . “And SMILE! Dates are more likely to choose a friendly, welcoming person. Be careful not to crop your pic too much so that it cuts off part of your photo, and make sure it tells a story about who you are and what you do. Make it relevant and interesting.” Remember, your smile is your logo.
- For styling advice, contact: www.freeeindex.co.uk and search UK Fashion Stylists
- Want to use a great photographer? Search for a portrait photographer in your area at www.findaphoto.co.uk
- OK Cupid has a feature, ‘My Best Face’ which can help you determine which of your photos will get people’s attention. Go to www.okcupid.com/mybestface
- Saskia Nelson and her team of photographers at Saturday Nights Alright, are the UKs dedicated dating photography service that can transform how you look online. Check out www.saturdaynightsalright.com
- Stand Out From The Crowd
“With so much online competition, it means that your dating profile needs to speak volumes, stand out from the crowd and attract the right people,” advises Rebecca Bea Dakin – The Great British Sexpert ( www.thegreatbritishsexpert.com ) “If you’re going to uncover a quality date, you need to draw in the quantity with a profile that shows how fabulous you really are. Showcase your personality effectively, make sure you use good grammar, and express what it is you want and what you have to offer.” And, remember, spellcheck! Spellcheck! Spellcheck!
- For a professional profile makeover, contact Rebecca at: www.thegreatbritishsexpert.com/contact
- Write a Heart Stopping Headline
“Most dating sites give you a place to write a headline,” says Katie Paul, love author (www.head-heart-health.com). “This is your first impression — the cover of the book, the opening sentence, the hook.” Try using a quote advises Katie. “A quote works on more than one level,” she says. “It has content (what the quote actually says), it has tone (beautiful, funny, sarcastic, solemn), it reveals something important about you in relation to the author (a Homer Simpson quote says something different to an Anais Nin quote), and it attracts someone who has a similar cultural or literary taste (again Homer Simpson vs Anais Nin). Chose a quote about love because after all that’s what you’re here for.”
- For quotation ideas, check out www.pinterest.com and search love quotations
- Make Notes
The experts atwww.wikihow.com, reckon it’s imperative to make a list of things that make you… well, you, before you start writing your profile. “What makes you unique? Don’t be afraid to mention an interest that may, on the surface, seem insignificant. The fact that you’re an avid fan of classic black and white films might not appeal to everyone, but it just might be the interest that makes someone special take notice. This will help create more “fodder” for your dating profile.” Then, start writing your profile based on your notes. “Most people make the mistake of writing their profile right there on the dating site. Don’t do this,” Wikihow advises. “Draft it on a separate piece of paper. Write as fast as you can without hurrying. And do write like you speak. Imagine your ideal “date” seated right there in front of you, and tell her/him what you want and why you are the best choice for her/him.”
- For more profile writing tips go to www.wikihow.com/Write-a-Good-Online-Dating-Profile
- Enlist the help of a friend; they know what makes you great!
- Show Don’t Tell!
This is a really important point to remember. “If you say something like ‘I’m really funny,’ the person reading your profile really has no reason to believe you unless you a crack a few jokes somewhere,” Lisa Hoehn, founder of one woman profile makeover business, Profile Polish, advises in the www.economictimes.com . “Instead of saying you’re spontaneous, talk about the time you hopped on a plane to Thailand,” she says.” If you help people come to their own conclusion, it hits harder and is more memorable. Specific details will appear much more genuine than a long list of personal qualities, which often end up sounding like a resume no matter how admirable they are.”
- To employ Lisa to make your dating profile shine, go to www.profilepolish.com
- Dating services at A Million Matches (www.amillionmatches.ca) include everything from setting up your profile and sending out messages to checking the criminal records of potential dates (for a steep fee).
- www.e-cyrano.com (run by dating coach whizz, Evan Marc Katz) will also, for a fee, help you market yourself better.
- TargetLove (www.targetlove.com ) offers everything, from basic profile writing to dating coaches who, for an hourly fee, will talk you through every step of the dating game.
- Virtual Dating Assistants (www.virtualdatingassistants.com ) does it all: writes your profile, picks out potential matches, sends introductory e-mails and messages back and forth until a date is confirmed. The company guarantees between two and five dates per month in return for a fee.
- Keep It Short And Sweet
“You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online,” says www.match.com‘s dating expert, Kate Taylor. “Women have a tendency to write too much because we enjoy reading long profiles. Men are not like us! Imagine you are doing an icebreaker introduction where you have to sum yourself up briefly.”
- For more sex and relationship advice go to www.katetellsyouhow.com
- For dating advice and tips and to contact Kate, go to www.lovekatetaylor.com and www.lovekatetaylor.com/contact
- Update Regularly
Ensure that your online dating profile develops with your life and update it often. “Once you have your profile set up, that does not mean you work is done,” says dating writer Florence NG at www.udemy.com. “You will undoubtedly see other examples online, develop new interests, or find ways to make yourself more marketable in the online word. Therefore, go ahead and update your profile regularly. Also, go ahead and do this if you feel you are not getting as many (or any good) responses or bites!”
- Check out https://www.udemy.com/blog/best-online-dating-profiles for more profile writing tips.
- Don’t Lie!
Never stretch the truth, even on minor details. “Let’s say you’re five-foot-ten, but you decide you’ll seem hotter if you say you’re six-foot-one,” www.nerve.com ’s dating columnist, Caitlin Robinson, aka Miss Information, tellswww.mensfitness.com . “It may be a superficial detail, but if/when your date notices you fudged the numbers, they’ll wonder what else you sugarcoated. It’s not about the inch or two; it’s a sense that you’re insecure enough to be lying. You shoot yourself in the foot immediately.”
- For love, sex and dating advice log on to www.nerve.com/advice
- Package the Product
With your online profile, you need to think like a marketer, “ says Love guru Dr Nerdlove (www.www.doctornerdlove.com) “You have a product (you) that you’re trying to move (i.e. get laid, get dates, what-have-you)… so you start off with how you package the product. Your profile – your screen name, your photos, your vital statistics and your words – are your packaging and even slight flaws can make potential customers (dates) go off in search of products that strike them as more appealing. So, choose a good screen name – People pay attention to this because it says more than you’d think. Names like, ‘GladHeAteHer’, ‘Smokedup420’ and anything using the number ‘69,’ are nature’s way of saying, ‘do not touch.’ As for photos, for the love of all that is holy: no selfies in the mirror,” warns the Doctor. “Make sure your vital statistics line up with your photo, and then, your ‘pitch’, is your actual profile words. Anyone who read this far, is more than a little interested in you, so make sure you know how to write well.”
- For Dr Nerdlove’s top tips on dating site profiles check out www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/07/online-dating-101
- Check out Radio Wright, the e-dating doc, online dating expert at www.edatingdoc.com for a free dating profile kit and his ‘10 Top Online Dating Profile Examples & Why They’re Successful’
- Stay Positive!
“Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself,” says eHarmony Relationship Expert, Jenni Trent Hughes at www.really.uktvco.uk . “Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative on your CV, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?” Jenni goes on to point out, “Whether you have signed up for the first time or have been online dating for several months, you must never under-estimate the power of your dating profile!”
- Log onto www.really.uktv.co.uk/sex-and-relationships/article/how-create-perfect-internet-dating-profile/ for further perfect dating profile writing advice
- Check out love & relationship expert, Julie-Anne Shapiro’s YouTube video, ‘How to Write an Irresistibly Magnetic Online Dating Profile’ for top tips. www.youtube.com
- For further love advice from Julie, go to www.magnetizinglove.com
Former AOL UK Editor, Julie Hodister, has written for numerous women’s and teen magazines including, Heat, Bliss, Dare, more! 19, Smash Hits, Big! J17, Q, Sky and Chat.